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What’s the Secret to…Life Balance?

acrobatWe are always looking for the ‘secret’-what is the secret to looking 10 years younger? What is the secret to having more energy? What’s the secret to everybody else’s problem not becoming my problem? And the big one-What’s the secret to finding balance in life? We want to know the one thing we can do which by doing it will make our life easier and better-what is the SECRET??? I discovered my secret to life balance while coaching gymnastics.

Part of the reality of the sport of gymnastics is dealing with being out of balance and falling. Even with the highest level of coaching in skill development, we could not remove the possibility of imbalance and falling. If imbalance and falling were an unavoidable reality, what else did they need coaching on? And then it hit me-balance was all about Recovery!

Learning how to quickly and efficiently recover from an imbalance gave the gymnast a higher chance of not falling! And if they did fall, knowing how to recover quickly and regain focus gave them a better chance of accomplishing their goal. If we learn how to quickly and efficiently recover from life imbalances, we will have a greater chance of not crashing! And if we do crash, knowing how to recover will give us a greater chance of re-focusing, getting back on track and having the fulfilling life we want!

This is a blog about experience in life…the issues we all deal with and how to use a coaching perspective to move through them in an empowering way. Life Balance is one of those experiences we all share in common. As we explore recovery skills over the next few blogs, let me leave you with 2 foundational principles of balance.

1. Balance is a dynamic energy-not static. To work toward equilibrium requires movement. If you try to balance on one foot-you will move in your ankle, leg or whole body to try to find balance.

2. Balance takes core strength. In the gym, core strength is developed by conditioning your abdominals-your ‘inner’ or ‘center’ muscles’.

In life, balance actually requires you to move, to make choices, to counter-balance at times. This often will create tension and risk. Sometimes you have two really good choices and you still have to choose one to move toward balance. Will it be the better choice? What will be the cost? What will be the benefit?

In life, core strength is found in your thoughts, feelings, values, perspectives and behavior! These are what you have complete control over. The more you know yourself, the stronger your core. The stronger your core, the clearer you will be in making empowered choices.

What Creates a High Performing Team vs. a Functional Team?

Teams come together to serve a purpose. whiteboardSometimes teams get so focused on the purpose they serve and their functionality that they forget the importance of first seeing themselves as ‘team’. Most of the teams time and energy is spent focusing on the outcomes dictated by their purpose and functions. How much time is left in the course of business to develop as a team?


My work with teams has allowed me to see the necessity of discovering who you are as a team. Have you discovered who you are as a team separate from your function? What is your vision of your team, your team identity, your teams core values? Your vision, identity and values may be different and at the same time supportive of the organization or company that the team is a part of.


If I were to define team development, it would go something like this:
Team Development is a combination of understanding relationship stages, practicing leadership within the team and coaching each other through the process of growth.


Within this definition lies what I see as the KSA’s of High Performing Teams:
Knowing- understanding the different stages of relationship development
Skills-all team members practicing leadership skills
Attitude-having a coach-like attitude in supporting each team member’s growth.


Over the course of a year, I will take you through a whole model of team development. Each month, I will post a blog focused on the KSA’s of High Performing Teams.

It will include information on:

  • Stages of Team/Relationship Development
  • Leadership practices you can put into play for that particular stage
  • Coaching skills you can use to facilitate growth and trust

It will also include a main ‘focus’ at each stage to help you stay grounded in a singular skill. For instance, the first ‘focus’ for our next blog will be Communication.


My blog is meant to be highly interactive and a space in which you can reach out, ask questions, share experiences about your team development or leadership. I am in my ‘sweet spot’ when I am coaching you though a real-life situation so please feel free to engage!

Setting the Foundation…..in your Life, Profession and Business

I am excited to offer you a variety of perspectives using the professional core competencies
of our governing body, the International Coaches Federation. The core competencies are rich guidelines to build a business on and as we explore different perspectives, I hope you will continue your journey of discovery in life, coaching and your business development. Each blogpost will cover one of the core competencies through 3 different lenses.

The first core competency is Setting the Foundation and there are two sub-categories:

  1. Meeting Ethical Guidelines and Professional Standards
  2. Establishing the Coaching Agreement

Today we will explore the first sub-category, ‘Meeting Ethical Guidelines and Professional
Standards’ through 3 lenses:

  1. Your life
  2. Your profession
  3. Your business development


Ethics are all about what you stand for and are committed to. They are our guidelines for
behavior-our moral principles. What ethical guidelines and standards do you want to manifest in your behavior?
One of my life guidelines is to embrace what is real, tangible and imperfect in my world. This is foundational for me in my life. What does this mean to me? It means that I will be present and aware of what life is offering me in the moment and accept it-even if it is messy! I did this work through creating a life manifesto. I encourage you to take the time to explore and commit to what you want your life ethical guidelines to be as those will become your standard of living.


Meeting Ethical Guidelines and Professional Standards is first demonstrated by having an
understanding and exhibiting in your own behavior the ICF Standards of Conduct which can be found here: http://www.coachfederation.org/icfcredentials/core-competencies/

One way to make this happen in a demonstrative way is to establish commitment statements that lay the foundation for your behavior, such as;

  • I am committed to respect and integrity in behavior toward all.
  • I am committed to delivering excellent service to: my clients, my ancillary and support services, and anyone I have interaction with in a professional capacity.

When we make commitment statements and share them, they hold us accountable to living them!